You Don’t Have to Come Home to be a Husband

It’s an incredible marriage. You asked for her hand and the two of you went through all of the wedding planning. Finally that day came, she came down the aisle and each gave your solemn vows to be there for the other no matter what happens in life. The honeymoon was grand and beautiful.

Now the two of you arrive back at the house and unpack all of the clothes. After everything is put away you kiss your new bride on the lips and say, “That was fun, I’m headed back to my place. I’ll stop by on the next holiday to visit. Let’s keep in touch and text ever now and then.”

“What!?” she screams. “What do you mean I’ll see you on the next holiday?”

Your response, “Well, I don’t have to come here to be your husband. I said I do and even have a ring. I’m a busy man. I have my job, trips with my friends planned and when I’m not out doing all of that I need some rest! I’m sure you understand. Trust me, it’ll be a great relationship!”

What a great love story, huh? The story sounds absurd and quite frankly it is; however that is how many believe and approach their relationship with God.

The quote I have heard hundreds of times, “You don’t have to go to church to be a Christian and have a relationship with God.”

The greatest commitment a person makes in life is his/her relationship with Christ. God calls it a marriage between man and Him. It is a bigger deal than our earthly marital relationship. God gave us marriage between man and woman to represent our relationship with Him and to teach us how to interact with Him in order to grow as believers.

No more than one would expect a marriage to work if the couple lived separately, neither will our relationship with God work if we are not involved with worship and other believers. Going on Easter & Christmas is nice; however will do nothing to grow us closer to God.

The first question to be asked would be why? Why wouldn’t a man want to live with his wife? Why wouldn’t a believer want to go to church or to be with other believers?

The wife of a man who say’s “I’ll see you on the holidays” would say he might have said a few words and signed a paper, but the marriage is not in his heart. Something is wrong; there is not a commitment.

“You believe that there is one God. Good! Even the demons believe that–and shudder.” James 2:19

Many believe in God; however they are missing the part of having a relationship. There is a difference in believing in God than knowing God. The Bible says that even the demons believe; however they won’t be spending eternity in heaven. They don’t have a relationship.

When we have a relationship with someone we love we want to be with them. Spending time together is how we get to know one another. It is where we grow more alike and get stronger. When tough times come it is the union of marriage that helps us to push through.

Bring sprinkled or dunked in water doesn’t make a person a Christian. Attending church nor saying a prayer makes a Christian either. It is a commitment of the heart that begins with the relationship. When we say, “I do” to God, worshiping won’t be a question. Our “want to” changes as our priorities shift to growing in our faith and living to find His purpose for our lives.


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