Our lives are full of opportunities to do good things. Sometimes we have our own desires to do positive activities and at other times it might be others who suggest the good things we should be doing.

If you have ever been connected to a volunteer organization such as a church or shelter you know that there is no shortage of people recommending all the good things you should be spending your time on. There are committees, work groups, and special events that were made “just for you.” These activities can require evenings of work both at the facility and at home filling up our schedules in the workplace and in our personal lives.

 In our free time there are even more good things we can fill our schedules with. Cleaning house, working in the yard, running errands, helping neighbors or being a listening ear to a friend. These things (and many more) are all commendable experiences that can bring huge accolades from the stands. The crowd will roar and wave the pom-pom as you come across the finish line of busyness!

 Here is the question: Are these “good things” keeping you from the “best things?”



The trouble is that doing good things is hard to argue with. A day at the animal shelter helping little puppies go for a walk is certainly a cute and admirable way to spend ones day. Cleaning the cluttered attic is an event that will bring huge applause from your spouse. Organizing and cleaning your toolbox is going to give you a certain sense of accomplishment (especially if it looks like mine after working on a vehicle). No one can argue these are great ways to spend your time, but what about your goals? What about your relationship with others? What is the impact on your health?


Assessing our activities might find that we are doing a lot of good things that are actually robbing us of experiencing our best in life!


An honest look might even find that we are doing these things in an effort to actually AVOID what we should be doing! Yes, those “I’m doing a good thing” activities are great EXCUSES TO AVOID the things in our lives that we know we should be doing, but would rather put off or avoid. Who wants to go to the gym when you can be gathering items to take to Goodwill? Why pay the bills when there are weeds in the garden that need pulling. Who has time to meditate or plan for the day when there are people in the hospital who need visiting?



Saying no to good activities is a must when it comes to reaching life’s goals. Saying no is a way to say yes to a more intimate relationship because you will be able to spend more uninterrupted time together. Saying no is a way to say yes to a healthier lifestyle because you will now have time to cook properly and exercise. Saying no means now you will be able to focus all of your attention to doing one thing great!



Each moment of the day we have a choice of what we do with the time given us. The minute that just passed, we will never get back. But the minute that is on the other side of this moment, it is yours to do with, as you desire. You are in control, no excuses. What will you choose to do with it? What about the 1440 minutes tomorrow? Will your minutes spent tomorrow be different from today? It is your choice.

 Choose to take the road that says you are determined to grab the best in life. Reach your goals by treating every minute as an investment to reach who and where you want to be. It’s all about one moment and one choice at a time. Choose the best.

Robert Simmons is a certified Professional and Executive Coach and owner of Leading Life Coaching and Leadership Services. For more information about coaching, consulting, mentoring and speaking engagements contact Robert at


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