The Evening Cafe with Coach Robert: Will the Money Show the Love this Valentine’s Day?

This year more than 14 billion dollars will be spent on Valentine’s Day. From Kindergarteners sharing candy hearts and silly cards to married couples giving elaborate jewelry and going on exotic vacations; Valentine’s will find all kinds of people trying to express their love for one another. It’s the one time of the year that is set to the side for those who might be too busy or just not attentive to those who are truly important to them, to come to their senses to prove there are truly still embers of love burning.

The question that is yet to be answered, will all the money and surprises truly communicate love?

How can you be certain that the money, time, thought and work you put into communicating to that certain someone pays off? There is a way; all you have to do is speak their language! Yes, that’s right. Many people will spend enormous amounts of money this February 14th, yet the person on the receiving end will walk away never having heard the love that was meant to be because both parties was speaking a foreign tongue.

Most people do not know their special someone speaks a very specific language of love. These five languages are: 1) Words of Affirmation 2) Quality Time 3) Receiving Gifts 4) Acts of Service and 5) Physical Touch.

What happens many times is one person communicates love, for example, through “Words of Affirmation,” while the other appreciates “Quality Time.” Each of them send out a message of love; however since they are communicating based on their own language, neither hear or feel the other’s message of love.

Many arguments have erupted and sadly, marriages torn apart because couples do not know these basic truths. The wife says, “You never say you love me anymore” and the husband is appalled! He replies, “I bought you a new car, a new house and jewelry! What do you mean I never say, ‘I love you!’” The truth was that the wife was more interested in spending time with her husband. The thing is, if he had simply sat and watched television or taken a walk every now and then with his wife, she would have melted in his arms.

This Valentine’s Day the best gift you can give is to learn your love’s Love Language and put it into practice. It might not be easy for you because it’s not your way of communication, but I guarantee it’ll bring you rewards that will result in years of love everlasting. You’ll also save a lot of money by spending cash on things that actually communicate, “I love you.” You’re Welcome!

To find out more about the Five Love Languages go to

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