EVENING CAFÉ WITH COACH ROBERT: IS LOVE GETTING IN THE WAY OF GOALS?

The garage needs cleaning and you are tired of asking your spouse to clean it up. You don’t understand why he won’t just get out there and get it done. After-all, it would only take one Saturday.

The office is a wreck! You’re wife’s home-office looks like a disaster. It’s like the Devil’s Triangle…things go in but never return. Why in the world won’t she just file things where they belong?

Is there something your spouse isn’t doing that you just don’t understand why he or she won’t do? Maybe it’s a project around the house or something as simple as cooking dinner. You just can’t put your finger on why they won’t engage what seems to be so simple.

 

 

COULD LOVE BE THE PROBLEM?

Sometimes a spouse’s lack of attention to a task is being distracted by his or her desire to be with their spouse! The fact of the matter is that often times loved ones will ignore what needs to be done because they don’t want to be away from the person they love.

  • After a whole day of being at work, who wants to come in and seclude themselves in an office filing paper? (Especially if home is the office!)
  • Dad spends all week at the office so come Saturday the last thing he wants to do is take the whole day cleaning out a garage.
  • If your spouse is the chef of the house, ever consider that he or she might not want to go in the kitchen because they don’t want to be away from you?

SO WHAT’S THE SOLUTION?

This solution is going to be complicated so turn off the television, focus and put your concentration hat on. This is huge!

GET IN THE GAME!

Yep! It’s that simple. Why not join your spouse in their effort? And ladies, before you start whining that there are no way you’re getting out in that nasty garage, consider this…

Your spouse doesn’t want you to do anything…they just want you with them!

Next time there is a task that needs to be done try a few of these tips:

  • When the Chef is cooking join him or her in the kitchen, pull up a chair and just chat
  • Suggest cleaning out the garage ladies and make a deal. Tell your husband that you’ll come out and work on your coupons, read a book, listen to the radio or talk about whatever comes up.
  • Office needs organizing, but your spouse doesn’t want you to touch anything? Take a chair and bring your laptop.

You might be surprised at the results you will experience if you simply take the time to be in the same location your spouse is working. It helps them not to feel like they are being negligent by not spending time with you. You being there makes the time pass by when the task might not be so pleasant. More than anything though…you are sharing and showing your love and that you can’t put a price on.

Tell me what you think!

Bringing Out Your Best,

Robert

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