Truth is, nothing will change unless we ourselves change.
It is easy to blame. Blame takes the responsibility and spotlight off of our own blemishes. When we blame our true message is we don’t want to change.
Blame comes in many different forms and/or actions. We quit our job because the boss is a jerk. The wife is always complaining so I work longer hours. My metabolism has slowed down so that is why I’m overweight. I don’t make enough money and that is why I am always broke.
The list could go on and on as to how we make excuses through blame. Shifting the focus from what we should do about our situation onto something or someone else makes us feel as though our situation is not our fault. Even though we try to remove the responsibility, no amount of blaming is powerful enough to take away the fact that we do have the ability to change our situation.
My Covenant with God in 2018 is to be more disciplined Spiritually, Mentally and Physically. To increase my discipline means I must decrease in selfishness.
Discipline: a way of behaving that shows a willingness to obey rules of orders. (Merriam-Webster)
Question: What keeps you from being disciplined? When you want to do right, why don’t you? As you look into the past changes that didn’t occur, what was the roadblock? Where did you get off track?
I would bet most times you, like me, will find it is some sort of self interest that takes the place of doing what you know should be done. We don’t want to obey rules. Most all of us want to do what we want to do and do not want anyone telling us otherwise.
Quiet Time in the morning is thwarted by “I need more sleep.” Losing a few pounds is lost in, “I’m a grown man, I can eat what and as much as I want.” The desire to lead my wife and family to attend church will drift away as activities, chores and friends take its place. A commitment to read more books is lost in the ease of mindless social media scrolling.
What in your life is going to be different in 2018? What are you going to change? Don’t do like many and make a list, but rather find one thing that you want to work on and make it your commitment. On a scale from 1-10, if you are a 4 at whatever it is, don’t try to be a 10. Work on being a 5. Just shift it one digit. It is not about being the best of the best, it is to be the best you can be.
You are the only person you can change. What do you want to be different when 2018 rolls to a close? You can do it with discipline, determination and selflessness.
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