Making Big Change One Step at a Time!

In today’s blog I want to throw a few ideas around the SPIRITUAL aspect of our lives. As it has been noted, having a well-balanced life is about keeping MIND, BODY and SPIRIT priorities. Spiritual is often the most neglected aspect of many of our lives for various reasons. It is also often considered ‘taboo’ to talk about because so many people have differing opinions and outlooks. This will be a longer blog post because I feel it is so complex and controversial, yet the most important. I want to throw out a lot of perspectives and ideas to help readers, no matter where they are on their journey, give serous consideration to where they may want to go with their goals.

On that note before I begin I want to provide some clarification. My coaching and mentoring advice comes from a Biblical perspective. While all beliefs are respected, a person should not compromise their own belief system for the sake of political correctness or in fear of offending. Part of my role as a coach is to encourage people to be who they are and not apologize; so I would be in err if I were to compromise my own convictions. And just so you’re not left guessing, I’ll gladly layout a few of my basic beliefs.


  • The Bible is the inerrant Word of God
  • There is only one God
  • There is only one way to God and that is through a relationship with Jesus Christ
  • I fail spiritually every day; so does everyone else
  • Though we fail, we are not failures and should not accept the failure.
  • We should accept forgiveness and get back up quickly
  • The church is full of hypocrites, but isn’t an excuse not to go. So are Walmart, Chili’s and the gym, but I don’t stop going to those places.
  • It is okay to share your beliefs, but they should not be forced on someone. Like coaching/counseling, if a person is not open it only builds up resentment. When a person is ready and open they will let you know.
  • Christian living isn’t about Religion; it’s about relationship





  • One of the biggest mistakes of the church I believe is neglecting this fact. A person new in his or her faith is not going to be at the same place as someone who has been raised in the church, yet so often the church’s expectations are that they should be. This expectation is equal to a person who has never stepped into a gym and a seasoned body builder telling them they should be able to complete a four hour workout. So if you are just beginning to search the spiritual don’t become overwhelmed when you begin to engage those who have been walking the walk for years. The Bible is simple yet complex; even the most seasoned theologians debate aspects of the Bible, so don’t expect to ‘get it’ all. Glean basic truths that will help you get started.

 Before you approach setting a goal it is important to evaluate where you are in your spiritual journey. Take a look at the below to determine where you might be.


  • NO-BELIEF: This may be a person who doesn’t believe in a God at all or simply does not care. Spiritual things are not important or at some points even anger him or her when the topic is brought up. This person probably stopped reading my blog when I laid out my basic beliefs.


  • ALL BELIEF: Belief is that so long a person believes in something or some kind of god, they will be okay. Often grounded in thinking that if people are in general good and do “good things” they will be fine in the eyes of whatever god they believe in.  The ALL BELIEF accepts there are many ways to God; “All Ways” are roads to eternity with God.


  • MAD-BELIEF: This person does not deny there is a God, but is mad at him. Often it is because they have had some tragic event(s) in their life and blame God. It has been proven that many people see God as they view their earthly father. Therefore a lot of times a strained relationship with their dad is reflected in the same relationship with God.


  • OSTRICH BELIEF: Head in the sand belief system says that God is there, but doesn’t really want to think about it. The Ostrich believer thinks that bad things happen to those who follow God. This is often based on personal experiences they have seen or experienced. The church can drive this type of perception when they focus on the downtrodden, being poor, sick and tragedy. So, people are afraid to acknowledge God 100% because they fear they will lose their job, become poor, people will get sick and that in general bad things will start happening to them. They don’t deny God, but aren’t all in either.


  • CURIOUS BELIEF: These folks are kicking the tires of religion. He or she has become a little curious; realizes there has to be more to life than what they are experiencing so they want to see what this “God Thing” is all about. Sometimes they are open and eager to learn; other times they have reservations and are doubtful as they begin to explore the spiritual aspect of life.


  • BABY BELIEF: New Christians are babies; they are just learning to crawl. He or she has agreed with God to follow Him, but are not quite sure what that looks like yet. Generally excited and eager to learn.


  • ADULT BELIEF: Seasoned church goers. They are involved, Biblically well read and active in their local church. Often serve as mentors to young believers and can speak from years of experience.


  • OFF TRACK BELIEF: Off-track is sometimes hard to recognize, but each person knows who they are. Someone who is off-track is a Christ Follower, but they have slipped back into their former ways of life. He or she might still be active in church or don’t attend anymore at all. What causes a person to get off track varies. It could be complacency, a spiritual failure they feel has disqualified them or a disappointment where they feel God or other believers let them down. Sometimes these individuals want to get back, but aren’t sure how and others have become calloused and are not interested, being content where they are in life.




  • As you can see there are a lot of places a person might be in life, so to draw a hardline and say someone should meet some standard of do’s and don’ts is insane. It sets the person who wants to change their life up for failure. For the sake of brevity I won’t address all of the above, but will present a few ideas for thought in setting appropriate action steps.


  • The NO-BELIEF person is probably not going to have any action steps until he or she becomes a CURIOUS BELIEF person. There has to be a shift to being a little curious; some kind of draw. If you are a NO-BELIEF person I have one action step to suggest: Pray that if God does exist that He will make you curious.



    • Correct the perception of God by researching the victorious side of God
    • Read a book that supports successful Christian living
    • Talk to a Christian counselor to determine the reason behind this belief



    • Read a Bible verse daily
    • Visit three churches over the next three months
    • Talk to a spiritual leader
    • Listen to 3 sermons from a local church on-line



    • Join a church
    • Volunteer in a church ministry
    • Find someone to mentor you



    • Find a quiet time to reflect on where you departed
    • Evaluate the cause
    • Talk to a counselor or respected Christ Follower
    • Begin a daily devotional that encourages reconciliation


Keep in mind these are just a very few ideas to get you to thinking. Everyone’s belief and walk is as different as the stars in the sky. The critical aspect of growing in your spiritualness is to be honest with yourself. This can be painful which is why some would just assume adopt the OSTRICH BELIEF system. Just remember, you’re not trying to become a Pastor or Priest; you just want to move an inch closer to spiritual awareness than you were. Take the baby-steps and you’ll be surprised just how far you can go.





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